Elizabeth we can’t thank you enough! I’ve spent nine months reading so much material but the GOS program gave my husband and I the confidence and tools to implement a successful sleep program with our son. You have changed our lives!!!
Just wanted to send an email to say a HUGE thank you to you and the gift of sleep team for your wonderful book!!!
On Thursday night I was at the end of my tether with our 8 month old and his terrible sleeping habits and I downloaded your e-book via the Mamamia page.
My precious little boy has had a rough 8 months, silent reflux, recurrent urinary tract infections and multiple lots of antibiotics which has all resulted in a very unsettled bub who always wanted to sleep on his mum. We had resorted to co- sleeping which was great because we all got sleep and I was able to breast feed him easily. This was bearable until a couple of weeks ago when he started waking up and crying during the night – even though he w as in bed with us.
We tried a sleep nurse a few months ago, which worked in the first instance but Darby got sick again and everything went out the window.
Anyway, long story short……we started GOS last night, after 45 minutes of crying he put himself to sleep (woo hoo!!! But trying not to get too excited and preparing myself for a long night ahead of persistence and patience). While Darby had a brilliant sleep, waking twice and resettling himself, I had a terrible night sleep waking and checking on him constantly! At 7am his morning I couldn’t believe he had slept the entire night!!!!! My husband and I are so excited!!! And day sleeps today – he put himself to sleep within 5 minutes and tonight, asleep within 5 minutes!!!! Oh and no dummy anymore either!
Thank you so much for all your knowledge and expertise! I can’t thank you enough!!! I will be recommending your book to all my sleep deprived girlfriends with bubs.
I LOVE this book!!!!
I LOVE this book!!!! It actually does what it says it does on the cover!! I must confess, I was a bit sceptical when I read The Gift of Sleep could teach my baby to sleep in just 3 days, but I am now eating my words and I apologise- it literally happened overnight.
Declan (6 months) suffers from reflux and although the medication morning and night is helping him, he had developed a bad sleeping habit that I couldn’t break. Until now. He needed me for comfort to get to sleep – so when he woke every 1-2 hours overnight I had to feed him to calm him down enough to get him back to sleep. He wouldn’t take a dummy. I tried everything I had learnt in the past but nothing worked. (I have a 2 year old who still doesn’t sleep through the night who we took to sleep school when he was 7 months and again at 14 months and I have read plenty of other ‘sleep books’ in that time.)
I almost gave up trying and started thinking this was just the way it was going to be. More than one person has told me in the past that ‘some babies just don’t sleep, you’ve unfortunately had two babies who don’t sleep’. My sister-in-law saw Mia talking about The Gift of Sleep on tv and told me about it. I decided to give it a go. Why not?
Night one was what I used to call a good night- only up 7 times between 8pm-5.30am and Declan got back to sleep within 10-20 minutes each time. He survived without a feed until I caved in at 5.30am. He fell back asleep at 6am and i had to wake him at 8.30am when I woke up! Pretty good considering he’s never lasted more than 4 hrs without a feed and that was 9.5 hrs! Night two was amazing. Declan only woke up ONCE, at 4.30am. Night three and again he only woke up ONCE at 5.30am. He now has two good sleeps during the day of 1-2 hours each instead of catnapping or sleeping for a total of half an hour for the day. AND he sleeps through the night. I haven’t fed him overnight since starting the program a week ago. Truly Amazing!!! I could go on about it for ages. Very Happy!!
My 2 year old is next!!!
Olivia, Shane, Jackson and Declan
Hi Elizabeth, Rebecca and Mia,
I just wanted to let you know that I implemented the Gift of Sleep system on Wednesday night and our little girl, Georgia was self settling by 12.30am that night.
Last night she went down at 6.30pm and woke today at 6am. Without a whimper from her.
Today we are the happiest baby and mum ever. I can’t thank you enough for following up the issues I was having with the internet.
You have made my last two nights an absolute dream and me a happy mum again. Words can’t express how grateful I am.
Thank you again.
Hello Elizabeth, Mia and Rebecca
I just wanted to let you know The Gift of Sleep works! It actually works!
I’m on week two now of The Gift of Sleep and we follow the routine every day give or take 15 minutes. My little man is now going to sleep with not even a moan! He just places his head down, turns it the side and nods off. It’s like a dream!!
Rewind two weeks ago and this was a typical day… 4.30am/5.00am wake, feed then bright eyed and bushy-tailed ready for the day! I was feeding Baxter 5 times a day and I was lucky if he slept three times a day for 20-minute intervals. At night he would wake up 5-6 times and needed to be breastfed to sleep. This meant my husband could never have a turn (much to his delight). When my husband did look after him he couldn’t get our son to sleep without walking.
Now we can both get him to sleep: 1-2 hours during the day (twice a day!) and at night when he sleeps from 6.00pm-6.30am!!!!
Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! Bliss! The best $20 I ever spent. Bless you Elizabeth, Mia and Rebecca.
From one very relaxed and happy family after a long 9 months.
We are now in week 3 and are happier than we have ever been. Our family is in a completely different place than we were for the 6 months before starting the program.
For 6 months I was rocking Alexander to sleep at night and for every nap, and the naps only went for 30 minutes. Night time started in his bed but he always ended up co-sleeping. It was a haze of rocking, crying (him and me!) and no sleep. Alexander was grumpy all day every day, it was very draining and upsetting for both of us.My mother saw the segment on the Today Show and I googled and found the eBook. My mother came to stay with me for a week to get me through. Night one was very hard as Alexander had never been left crying longer than a minute but by the second night we had made an improvement on both night and day sleeps. By the fourth night we were down to only one resettle and by night six I was doing one knock and the resettling wasn’t needed.
Now, week three and Alexander is going to sleep both at night and for naps within 10 minutes of putting him down. Sometimes we get a bit of a stop/start cry but nothing major. He sleeps from 6:30pm to 7:00am and if he does wake its only a few grizzles and than back to sleep.
Alexander is now a happy playful baby who can play alone, is laughing and quite content. He is eating better, we have a routine for naps, its amazing. We have so much fun now that when he is asleep I want to wake him because I miss his happy smiling face where as before the program I begged for him to sleep and was regularly on the phone to my mum in tears.
I am sooooo happy and our family is enjoying every moment with our happy gorgeous little boy who is now starting to crawl!!
Hi Elizabeth, Bec and Mia,
I just wanted to write and tell you thank you so much for writing The Gift Of Sleep. My little girl is 6 and 1/2 months old and I was so tired and desperate for sleep! I was up 2-3 times a night for feeding and then in between those feeds sticking the dummy in. I was close to being up 15 times a night, and then forgetting: was I up for the dummy or was it a feed? Oh – I can’t remember, I’ll just feed her, rock her, sing to her, pat her and she’ll go back to sleep…. I had about 10 dummies in her cot for quick plug ins! I couldn’t even eat my dinner without having to rush to the nursery to put that dummy back in!
After reading so many sleep books, and being recommended so many other routines and sleep strategies I came across Mia’s YouTube video via Google, recommending this book. While I was watching the video I thought, hey she‘s been through what I’m going through now….I downloaded the book without hesitation.
Well, I started during the day as I wanted Grace to get used to no dummy to begin with. She had her first day sleep a little late than usual at 9.30am. She went down no problems as she was very tired. I thought great start! Then again in the afternoon 1pm went down a few grizzles. Night one began! Grace went to bed at 7.26pm, she cried for 5 mins, with a start/stop cry. I left her and thought this is good… she’s not screaming yet! And she went to sleep, by 7.31pm. My husband and I went straight to bed, thinking…. it’s going to be a long night yet! Grace awoke at 10.52pm grizzling until 10.58pm, we didn’t even get out of bed as it was just a start/stop cry – grizzle. And then back to sleep!!! She woke up again during the morning, but re-settled herself after a few grizzles. Then at 7am, she was up. Playing with her flat out bear! She even drank a whole bottle (which she hadn’t done for a few weeks now!) Day sleeps were a breeze – no dummies! Night two was an improvement on night one. She woke up less, and grizzled less, again resettling herself. We were worried about night 3 as we both play sport on Sundays and it was a big day for her, with only and hour and half sleep all day! I put her to bed at 7.23pm that night with her bear and she grizzled for 3 mins, but then straight to sleep. We didn’t hear from her until 3.53am – with a little grizzle and back to sleep, up and ready for the day at 6.30am.
Even after night one, Grace was happier, I was happier. We had both gotten more sleep than we have ever gotten. Grace is more content and can sit on her own and play without looking around for me or grizzling the whole time. I can enjoy her more and I can actually watch tv until 9.30pm with my husband and enjoy it!!! The book made sense, it was easy to read and it isn’t the type of book where you read and that’s it…. you’re on your own. You have the support from other mums, the Facebook support and comments page… I kept a close eye on your Facebook page and kept reading about other’s mum’s successes, and what night number they were on, and how it was going. I read the testimonials, over and over again. You answered any questions I had, and you just kept supporting myself and other mums! I liked how you made a baby’s cry sound like a protest – “hang on… what’s happening? This is not what I’m used to!” You made my husband and I realise baby’s cry – it’s what they do and how they communicate and a little bit of crying isn’t going to hurt them. Thank you so very much from the bottom of our hearts!
Natalie & Ella
My 10-month-old baby was waking repeatedly at night for a breastfeed and/or cuddle. I called myself ‘Ninja Mum’. Ninja Mum would quietly stalk the halls at night, cradle baby to sleep, then gently try to lower her into the cot and creep out without her waking. The trouble though was baby was wise to me. Her cry seemed to say, “No I wasn’t really asleep, don’t go anywhere!” Over time my baby was getting more tired and finding it harder to unwind and sleep. Her one daytime sleep was only half an hour. Our sleep (or lack there of) was a constant worry.
After 3 days thinking about it, I bought The Gift of Sleep. Making a change is a scary proposition. Once I bought it, I read it that night. Elizabeth’s gentle method of teaching your baby to self settle sounded so sensible. My hubby is working overseas and I don’t have any family living nearby. So having the online community of parents also doing the program made me realise I was not alone. I felt reassured that that my baby and I could do this. I was a bit nervous about how well my baby would react. The reality of the first night turned out easier than I feared. My baby let me know her disapproval and it was tough hearing her protest cry. But I resisted the quick fix. I remembered the big picture and kept calm. That first night we both had more sleep than we had in months.
Since that first night, it’s only gotten better. I’m absolutely delighted with the huge blocks of sleep we’ve had. When she does wake up, it’s a grizzle or a sigh and then she settles herself back to sleep. We’re both enjoying the best sleep we’ve had in her lifetime!
My naturally happily and active baby is now even more so. Rather than falling asleep in the highchair at dinnertime, she entertains me with her giggles and wiggles. Two decent daytime sleeps were an unexpected bonus, as I read these can take a bit longer to establish. She even sounds better when she’s sleeping. Her breathing is deep and loud. I could write pages about how much better things are! I would not have thought such a positive change could be possible with so little effort or angst. It’s as if sleeping angels have visited and blessed our house with a sprinkling of sleeping dust!
Without this program we would be going on the way we were. I can’t even imagine being on that road again! Ella and I say a BIG “thank you”!
Dear Elizabeth, Bec and Mia
I subscribe to Mamamia and just assumed The Gift of Sleep was another controlled crying program with a few new bells and whistles.
My third daughter is 7.5 months old, she was feeding all night long and ended up every night in our bed. I was exhausted and realised my cranky pants were negatively affecting my family. We finished the three- night program last night. What I have realised over the three nights is that I didn’t give Alice a chance to learn how to sleep by herself - I was up and out of bed within seconds of her waking.
Over the three nights Alice cried for no more than twice for 5 minutes. And it wasn’t hysterical crying, just protest. Now to tackle the three-year-old who won’t go to sleep in her bed and also ends up in our bed every night (somehow I don’t think she will be so easy!). Thank you Elizabeth, Bec and Mia! I think of all the sleep I missed out on with my eldest two. Now when my boobs have got used to not producing milk during the night I look forward to some sleep.
Katie & Baby Charlotte
Thanks so much for putting pen to paper and producing The Gift Of Sleep. Like many others I was silently starting to crumble, following many exhausting nights over the past few months trying to settle and resettle my eight-month-old daughter to sleep.
I haven’t helped her cause – we have been traveling for the past 6 weeks (both domestically and to the States) where breastfeeding her to sleep was my only answer to her constant waking throughout each night. To read Mia’s article on your beliefs, and subsequently the book you have written could not have come at a better time.
We didn’t rush into it. Having purchased your book on a Monday, we decided as a family that Friday would be it. (Even mum came to stay, ready to swing into action the following morning so I could get some sleep following the dreaded night one.) Flat bear ready, room rearranged, sleeping bag on … and what happened next astounded us all!! She cried for a total of 20 seconds. And then silence. For the next 12 hours, our little girl ‘woke up’ twice – we held our breath, thinking I would have to start your process and she then proceeded to resettle herself on her own and was quickly back to sleep. We couldn’t believe it!! She was such a happy baby that next morning – and like other mums, I also noticed her increased appetite. Surely that was just a fluke and the tough times were ahead for night two??
Night two = exactly the same. Another 12 hours, resettling herself (without me having to get out of bed!). I managed to get the best night’s sleep I have had since she was born (the previous night I just lay awake all night wondering if something was wrong with my sleeping girl!). Night three and then the game started. She took 75 minutes to resettle, but following your process, the waits, knocks and resettles finally worked. She slept again for the rest of the night until 7am.
Even though I feel I have had a smooth run so far (except for one night), I am sure it will change and she will test me – however I feel absolutely confident that your system works, and that I really am giving my girl a gift. Just watching her play, eat and go about her day after a good night of sleep is proof enough for me. I feel it is as if she has sensed something has changed and has adapted beautifully.
Thanks to you, Mia and Bec again. An easy to read, accessible book which made more sense to me than anything else I have read along the journey.